Saturday, August 2, 2014

Look Who's STILL Here!!

I know what I boasted in my previous post about being discharged to go home, but let me take a hot second to vent about this, because once it is over I never want to speak of it again: we are STILL IN THE NICU.

Mike has a made a few accurate comments concerning our NICU stay, which I will share with you to demonstrate the situation:

"It's like the Hotel California, but with no champagne"

"The sign at the entrance should read 'NICU: Abandon all hope, ye who enter here' "

I know (I promise I do!) how wonderful the NICU is for babies who need it and am incredibly grateful for it in our case too since our baby was not breathing well enough on his own breathing is pretty important. The problem is that once they admit you to this place, they hover over every single tiny detail of your infant, and if it does not please them, YOU DO NOT LEAVE. Joseph's breathing has been perfectly fine since the morning after his birth, they have just a new thing every day to "be concerned over" and then refuse to discharge us.


My lone wonderful visitor, Sarah with the coolest baby on the NICU block. She brought me a giant bag of giant peanut M&Ms, bless her.

And one more of Mike and his boy, because there will never be enough of these:

I will not bore you with the details, but rest assured, everything is absolutely fine- we are just pretty sure they are never going to let us leave. We were supposed to be discharged yesterday and then were told we had to spend one more night and thought we would leave this morning, but now I type this like so:
^Glowing baby and peanut M&Ms at my side trying to not completely lose my cool over them making such a fuss over his supposed jaundice and making him (and subsequently me) stay yet another night.

They have quoted "billi levels" to me that I know my other kids had after they were born but since he is already admitted, they are "not allowed" to let him leave yadayada... Meanwhile his 3 older sisters are absolutely dying because they STILL HAVEN'T MET HIM-- kids with colds + 2 pound babies in NICU = no-- and meanwhile I am kind of a wreck about not seeing the girls, but especially little Lucy, for so many days.

I am such a baby about this, especially considering how much you other amazing moms (Jen, Kathryn, Bonnie, who else? SO many!) have experienced with looooong stays. I am so happy that the concerns they have here aren't actually concerns to me, AND they are letting me sleep in a bed here instead of just a reclining chair- huge plus! I am just sending this little SOS for prayers for my sanity out into the Saturday night blogosphere void, because that is my M.O.

Baby Joseph is doing great and I am well too, but when this whole thing is over I will refer to this place always and ever hereafter as "The Place We Do Not Speak Of", and leave it at that.




23 comments :

  1. Oh dear, so frustrating! He's rocking the glowworm look though :) But yeah, um, I vote you just walk out...or cry. They tried to make me stay in the hospital after my first son was born because of, ahem, damage from the childbirth, and I cried and said could I please please go home and sleep in my own bed and they let me go. Just saying ;)

    Hang in there, and Joseph is absolutely adorable!

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  2. I am a rare commenter, but I want you to know: I know where you're at and I feel you. I've been there, and it is REALLY hard to be patient when in the situation you're in. You'll be snuggling back in at home before you know it - in the meantime I'll be praying for peace and well being for all.

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  3. Prayers for peace and plummeting bili levels!
    Hope you are cuddling all your little ladies very soon.

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  4. That is so frustrating. We had long a long NICU stay with our 30 week twins and I thought they were never going to leave. We joked that we better not be there for Valentine's Day after spending Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's there. (We didn't') I didn't feel like a real parent since I wasn't the one actually caring for my babies. Having a discharge date dangled in front of you is just cruel. It happened to us too with my daughter at home but my son still stuck in the NICU. I wanted to cry since I was so ready to have all of my kids at home with me. Two days later he came home. Hopefully you won't have to wait that long!

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  5. Oh Ana. So sorry you are still there. Prayers that you are home tomorrow!

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  6. Oh I'm sorry you're still there. My second was a preemie and it was so frustrating to have him there and me at home - and it was only 9 days! I don't know how the many-months crew does it. (Well, I do. You do what you gotta.) My only hesitant advice is to not hide from it - I did, and pushed it out of my mind, and then when the next baby came along I had terror pop out at me periodically.

    Praying you can go!

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  7. Praying! Been there, you are doing an awesome job.

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  8. We were there for a month... You kinda have to push the doctors *repeatedly* to give you a checkout date. No joke. It is in their power. Sometimes decisions get pushed back because they get sidetracked when there are any specialists involved and too many talking heads giving opinions. Stay on Em, if baby Joseph is really ok they WILL have to figure out a (soon!) check out date. Praying for you!

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  9. Aw. I'm sorry you're still there and will be praying for your peace, sanity, and a speedy discharge. I'm glad you hit up the Saturday night blogosphere for prayers. I'm happy to oblige!

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  10. The first time the hospital made me stay more than one night I kept crying and made the nurse ask the pediatrician again to be sure we had to stay. I missed my babies at home so much! And the fact that me and baby get barely any rest at the hospital because it seems like they come in the room every 30 minutes and want to wake the baby!

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  11. I'm sorry you have to stay. :( we've been ther. No fun at all. I'll share a secret... They wouldn't let us leave because she wasn't gaining weight and began to lose. She was finally nursing but vomiting her meals. I knew it was the heavy black liquid vitamins the doc prescribed but they wouldn't listen to me. So I waited for a shift with a kindly nurse, got permission to administer the vitamins myself, and tossed them in the garbage can. We went home the next day. I am grateful they saved the life of my baby... But they needed to know when to let mama take over. Prayers for a quick return home!

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  12. Praying for a quick discharge, i'm so sorry Ana! He is absolutely gorgeous though, and I hope you're getting your fill of free cable and cafeteria catering. Make Mike fetch you some booze and pour it into your hospital jug - I have never had a nurse say anything, but I've gotten lots of knowing winks when they catch wind of my rebellion.

    And I may have been known to attempt a discharge AMA once or twice. Mama knows best, just saying...

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  13. Don't feel guilty -- post-partum mothers get to feel WHATEVER THEY WANT! You just gave birth to a tiny helpless baby and are awash in hormones :) Hope you get to go home today!

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  14. i 2nd or 3rd the AMA discharge ;) If he really is doing well, nursing and pooping plenty and the original breathing issue is resolved.... well, there is a very large amount that NICU can bill insurance for every day you're in it :(

    Which really isn't to say that all NICUs are moneygrubbing jerks, b/c they aren't and they do amazing lifesaving things. but i think b/c they see worst case scenarios, they lean in the direction of ridiculously cautious sometimes.

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  15. How frustrating! Prayers that they let you go home soon. You deserve a big ol' glass of wine to wash down those peanut m&M's.

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  16. I know your frustrations. I think a lot of it is because they practice medicine on the defense so they can never be sued. It'll end and you'll all be together but in the meantime... ugh. Prayers for you and Mike and Joseph.

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  17. Hope you don't get caught in the jaundice vortex! This happened with my last baby and took us a week to escape.:) Really kinda wrecks the babymoon and time with siblings!

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  18. I get what you're saying and that would be SO FRUSTRATING!!! Hopefully the fake problems subside soon and you all can go home. And I am selfishly hoping there are some good stories about the girls meeting Joseph. :)

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  19. Can I tell you that we made the exact same jokes about our NICU stay in November?! My husband said, "Well be sending out high school graduation invites for Dominic from the NICU." We eventually took him out against medical advice and then CPS came to our door the next day. Be persistent, mama, they want that baby to meet 500 ridiculous milestones before they let him out. Prayers for you as I know how it is. God bless!

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  20. PS: I'd sign him out AMA all over again, too, if I had to.

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  21. So sorry, and so frustrating! I was there with my first, he was NICU for a heart issue that they got corrected on the first day. Then he wasn't being released because my milk hadn't come in so his blood sugar levels were coming in too low. After a day of foot needle pricks checking his blood (poor baby) and my milk still not arriving I finally made the executive decision to let him have formula to fix his levels to get him out of there! We had to supplement with formula at home too because it was 8 days before my milk decided to arrive!! But at least we were home.

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  22. Hang in there momma. You will escape the vortex soon I am sure :)

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  23. Yes! Yes! Yes! With our son born last September we were readmitted for bili levels, then kept for another 2 days because we were waiting on cultures to grow, unrelated to the bill levels. They wouldn't let us leave with our perfectly healthy baby. It was like having too much healthcare. Aack.

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