I am surely in NO position to give any advice, so that is absolutely NOT what I am doing. This is more of a reminder for my future self since I can't even remember what I ate for lunch let alone what helped me with the baby transition in a few years when another babe pops out. SO this is for me. And you if you are desperate and willing to take advice from a mediocre mom like me.
I've decided that the best course of action for me is incorporate things into my life that give the illusion that I've got it together, even though I most certainly do not. Also, my expectations are super low, that is also key.
Here are 3 things that have been helping-- wine and coffee are a given every day. And lots of prayer (ejaculatory prayers in my many moments of sleep deprived desperation. I'm being over dramatic. Or am I?)
These all start with the letter S so it's easy to remember: bonus!!
1) Showering. while I do not always-or if I am honest ever- wash my face at night anymore, it has been pretty key for me to shower each morning. I know a whole lot of women that this is not the case for, they just don't need to shower every day. However I seriously NEED to shower every day. If I don't I feel nasty and cranky. And if I do, I at least feel like I have it all together, even though I don't: it's all about illusions.
This is one thing that is worthy of a little video watching in my opinion, all I need is 15 minutes, so a short video works just fine:
|I thought this was preferable to a picture of me in the shower. You. are. welcome.|
2) Socializing. I may have mentioned in various posts how I've been getting out of the house with all 3 children fairly frequently. This is because I'm a pretty extroverted person who needs to talk to people or else I start to get anxious and twitchy. If it is too much for me to get out of the house, it always ends up being worth it to call a friend and invite them over. It is also why blogging has not totally stopped for me since it is my other favorite way of socializing, even though it is via the interwebs. It doesn't matter- I love it all and it all helps a lot with early post partum stir-craziness.
|And the kids love it too. Yes, they are devouring the sugar cookie creche.|
3) Spanx. Maybe you don't own a pair, but they have been my best friend during these early days after having a baby and feeling extra fluffy. I do not wear them every day but I've worn them a lot when going out: to Mass, out with Mike, to some play dates or other social functions.
|the only reason I fit into any of this 2 weeks after birthing Lucy|
It may seem super vain of me (because it is) but it just helps me feel my best during the days where the baby-having pouch is sticking out extra far. It's nice to not have to feel like I have to suck it in all the time and it helps with fitting in to certain pants, skirts and dresses that would not otherwise fit. I haven't had to wear them as much recently because I am actually fitting into a lot more, but for the first 6 weeks they were my bff.
Obviously there are other, way less vain and way more important, methods of coping, but these are a few that don't necessarily come to mind right away for me. I also tend to get all guilty for feeling like I need these things, but generally they've helped me to feel better about myself and less crushed by intensity that is the newborn time and therefore help me to be a better mom and person. I am always open to other suggestions.
And now here is a completely unrelated video of Bernadette scolding the lobsters and crabs apparently living on our kitchen floor threatening to eat her clementines. Grace, you're not the only one perpetually pealing those stupid things. (It sounds like I am telling Naomi to stop in a mean voice, but rest assured I am just telling Bernadette to yell at the crabs and lobsters.)